counting the days till you die

[thebear247]

really sucks im having a bad night my aunt and the only member of my familly outside my mom dad sister and neice who ever gave a fuck about me has been told she has under a year to live to enjoy her time . she has cancer of the bones and lungs and has lupus.

its hard she is very close to my mom but im trying to be strong i couldnt imagine counting the days to my death and what that must be like .

if someone told you when you would die what would you do before you pass on

 

[zell]

really sucks im having a bad night my aunt and the only member of my familly outside my mom dad sister and neice who ever gave a fuck about me has been told she has under a year to live to enjoy her time . she has cancer of the bones and lungs and has lupus.

its hard she is very close to my mom but im trying to be strong i couldnt imagine counting the days to my death and what that must be like .

if someone told you when you would die what would you do before you pass on

Sorry to hear that.That's without a doubt some shitty news.All I can say is enjoy the time you have with her while you still have a chance to.

As for me,I probably wouldn't do anything differently,except to be more truthful to people about how I really feel about them.To the people that I love,I'd let them know what they've meant to me,and to the people that I don't really get along with,let them know what I think they could do to improve themselves.

 

[Rey C.]

I feel for you, Bear. I have an uncle (who is my best friend) who has been battling cancer for several years now. It's moved from one area to another, and he's running out of options now. Unlike your aunt, they have't given him a date to think about. But, it is what it is.

That question hits too close to home for me right now. I don't know. Hopefully I'd just try to make every day count and try to do right by my loved ones. Past that, I don't know.

My best to your aunt. :thumbsup:

 

[Jagger69]

I'm so sorry, Bear. Having lost a number of very close family members and friends to cancer, I share the anguish you feel.

I can only wish that, if indeed there is no hope, that she goes quickly and suffers as little as possible. Take whatever solace you can in the knowledge that someday we all shall follow her.

Cancer fucking sucks.

 

[Legzman]

If I knew when I was going to die I'd do everything I've always wanted to do before I die and then some! #1 on my list would be sky diving.

 

[gunslingingbird]

Bear, I feel your pain. My grandmother is in a similar situation right now. The doctor told us that she has less than a year left. Unfortunately I don't know if I'll be able to see her or not, as she lives in Mexico and refuses to come to the US, even though 2 of her 4 offspring live in the SF Bay Area, and right now I can't afford to travel there myself.

 

[sproing99]

Sorry to hear your news thebear247. I can sympathise, although in the case of my relative it's less clear where the end comes.

Try to spend as much time with her (live or via Skype), try to entertain her as much as you can to distract her from her predicament.

 

[Ace Boobtoucher]

That is awful. I'm sorry you have to face that. Pondering mortality is the last thing I want to do but every year around my birthday I think of the same things; who's going to remember and miss me when I'm gone; when I slip loose this mortal coil what happens to my soul; why didn't I do this or that..........pretty depressing, really.

If I had an exact date of my own demise what would I do? The boring thing would be to say I'd do all the things I always dreamed of but who really gets the chance? I'd like to go around throwing cream pies at people who need to STFU; maybe put change in nearly expired parking meters around downtown just before a meter maid writes a ticket; or maybe I'd spend that time with the people who've made me happiest.....strippers.

 

[biomech]

Sorry to hear this, you and your family are in my prayers.
Im not sure what i would do in this situation.

 

[tittenman]

Very sad news indeed, its always very hard under the circumstances to know what to do. I guess that this is perhaps beyond the point where there is realistically anything effective that can be done? If not the always keep hope, pray if your religious (pray even if you are not might help). Try to make as much time as you have remaining with your aunt count, try to spend as much time with her, comfort her as much as you can. She may not show it outwardly but I bet she is scared as hell of dying so try to take as much of that fear away from her.

If I was told I had X amount of time left I would probably start to get my affairs in order ie start to plan for what is going to happen in my absence, next I would try to prioritize essential things I had not got round to doing. I suppose the final thing would be just to enjoy each day as it comes and try to spend as much time with loved ones.

Hope this helps under the circumstances, most important thing is to stay strong and focused for her, alst thing you want is to start upsetting her necessarily by looking upset yourself.

 

[ezteban]

really sucks im having a bad night my aunt and the only member of my familly outside my mom dad sister and neice who ever gave a fuck about me has been told she has under a year to live to enjoy her time . she has cancer of the bones and lungs and has lupus.

its hard she is very close to my mom but im trying to be strong i couldnt imagine counting the days to my death and what that must be like .

if someone told you when you would die what would you do before you pass on

We are all with you my friend !

 

[Eric Lindros]

Sorry to hear that, Bear.
Stay strong!

 

[Skyraider22]

I'm sorry to hear that I will be praying for her and you as well Make the most of it have fun do all you can much love :lovecoupl