Daygaming: try to meet girls on the street or somewhere else

[snaptrap]

You know those moments when you see a gorgeous woman walking somewhere and you just don´t know what to say to her? That moment when you look at her and she looks back because she knows that you think she´s nice? What I wonder, in a case when she finds me attractive too, is if she would like me to go to her and invite her for a cup of coffee? Or is that against the `game` rules?

Let´s say I see one walking down the street. Presumably she´s going somewhere and she doesn´t have time chatting whit strange men. She probably not expecting to be hit on on a monday afternoon 14.00 or Wednesday 11.00 in the morning. Since she is not expecting it, she´s probably not planning time to spend with a guy who does try to hit on her.
And then there is also the possibility that she might think I am stalking her, which to be honest is true at least a little.

So what can a guy do?

 

[Hot Mega]

Frankly, timing and circumstance are everything. Some situations are just not conducive to approaching a chick.

The main thing is when you see a chick that you're interested in and the opportunity to approach her presents itself, do so with confidence and expect to get a positive response (even if you don't). What's the worst thing that can happen...she'll say she's not interested?? In that case, you're back where you started from.

But allot of guys kill their game before the word go by being unsure and nervous...chicks smell that a mile away. Some chicks think that's cute...those types of chicks are the ones that like you anyway. You can't believe any chick is too good for you...even if they may think so...you don't. Never fear rejection and most times you won't be rejected. There's a point that is more than confidence and less than over-confident that some chick can't resist.:2 cents:

Unfortunately I'm laid up with a busted leg for awhile but I should be okay by just in time to hit the beach and practice what I preach.

 

[Paulo2221]

I know exactly what u mean man, and you dont want her to go incase you dont see her again ! it,s a tricky one !! i ussualy woudint have the bottle to just confront a girl and ask her out i,d ussualy need a couple of drinks in me are sumthing lol !! It is hard to just walk past and not want to talk to her esp when she is drop dead gorgoues !

 

[Hot Mega]

I know exactly what u mean man, and you dont want her to go incase you dont see her again ! it,s a tricky one !! i ussualy woudint have the bottle to just confront a girl and ask her out i,d ussualy need a couple of drinks in me are sumthing lol !! It is hard to just walk past and not want to talk to her esp when she is drop dead gorgoues !

I hear you... but just look at it this way...was she anymore gorgeous than the last gorgeous one You Missed out on? There will be times when it's worth your time and there will be times when it's not. Just acknowledge them when they acknowledge you, say hi.. and go on about your way.

 

[snaptrap]

Well, today I saw one of those girls I thaught:"Let's go and try to talk to her."
It was at a warehouse where I was walking out of, while she just walked in. I returned 5 minutes later, searched every level without showing any weird behavior and finally I found her. alas, a.s.a. I got close to her I heard her saying :"bla, bla, bla, my boyfriend, bla, bla, bla...

I do not know abouyt you, but a.s.a. I know a girl has a boyfriend I stop the game...and head over to start a new one with someone else.

But it was fun...kinda.

 

[Hot Mega]

Well, today I saw one of those girls I thaught:"Let's go and try to talk to her."
It was at a warehouse where I was walking out of, while she just walked in. I returned 5 minutes later, searched every level without showing any weird behavior and finally I found her. alas, a.s.a. I got close to her I heard her saying :"bla, bla, bla, my boyfriend, bla, bla, bla...

I do not know abouyt you, but a.s.a. I know a girl has a boyfriend I stop the game...and head over to start a new one with someone else.

But it was fun...kinda.

Well I wouldn't have let that stop me as you never know if her b/f is on the way out and she's just looking for a good excuse to close the door. I wouldn't be too forward with her though, just make simple conversation. Tell her that you did notice her, frankly, she's attractive and ask would she like to have dinner with you sometime in life.

Now you're all in and she's going to call or not. If she calls, hand her your cell phone, tell her to put in her number, call her phone right then. If her phone doesn't ring, she's just humoring the conversation. If her phone rings...tell her, now you know what my number is when I call....Don't try and hang with her or extend the conversation...just say I'll talk to you soon and leave.:thumbsup:

 

[Will E Worm]

Just tell them you're a Transformer.

Snaptrap

 

[DOA82]

I dont envy the moden dating scene, modern must worry some guy approaching them randomly on the street, is either looking to abduct, rape, murder or have some sort sinister intent that will see them on the side of a milk carton or become a statistic on the news.

Plus the idea of approaching a woman and basing your intent on how they look, isnt that kinda shallow? Alright there isnt any other real way of doing it of course, I mean in a bar scene or club thats kinda the only way, but doing it on the street? Seems wrong and it wouldnt surprise me if the success rate for that is abysmally low.

 

[zell]

Frankly, timing and circumstance are everything. Some situations are just not conducive to approaching a chick.

This is true.Trying to pick up a girl in church or at a funeral is just plain tacky.

Never fear rejection and most times you won't be rejected.

Yeah,that's total bullshit,and I'm living proof of it.

And here's why...

alas, a.s.a. I got close to her I heard her saying :"bla, bla, bla, my boyfriend, bla, bla, bla...

I do not know abouyt you, but a.s.a. I know a girl has a boyfriend I stop the game...and head over to start a new one with someone else.

Yup,that's probably your best bet.The same thing happens to me all the time.

Well I wouldn't have let that stop me as you never know if her b/f is on the way out and she's just looking for a good excuse to close the door. I wouldn't be too forward with her though, just make simple conversation. Tell her that you did notice her, frankly, she's attractive and ask would she like to have dinner with you sometime in life.

Here's the problem with that,If she's in the better than average looking category,then chances are that there at least 5 other guys ahead of you waiting that one out,so the odds of you actually getting her are slim considering that you just entered the game and the other guys have already laid the ground work.

Also,and I speak from personal experience,even if her b/f is on the way out,he may not see it that way,and if something does become of you and her,there more than likely will be ramifications usually developing into a confrontation and sometimes altercation of sorts.I'm sorry,one of the first things you should ask yourself in a situation like that is "is she worth it?",and most of the time,the answer is no.

Now you're all in and she's going to call or not. If she calls, hand her your cell phone, tell her to put in her number, call her phone right then. If her phone doesn't ring, she's just humoring the conversation. If her phone rings...tell her, now you know what my number is when I call....Don't try and hang with her or extend the conversation...just say I'll talk to you soon and leave.:thumbsup:

The one thing that I've learned about girls is that even if they aren't into you at all,most of them don't know how to graciously turn a guy down,so in effect,they usually play nice and string you along until you finally give up or or make a fool out of yourself.

 

[Hot Mega]

but doing it on the street? Seems wrong and it wouldnt surprise me if the success rate for that is abysmally low.

Like I said before, every circumstance isn't conducive to meeting a chick. Sometimes, no matter how good a chick looks, you'd be better served to just pass if the alternative is appearing to be a stalker or a fool. No opportunity to meet a chick is worth making a fool out of yourself IMO.

So appealing to a woman's looks seems "shallow"??? Are you kidding????? Of course it's shallow but what OTHER criteria is going to attract you to a complete stranger?

The biggest mistake people make is making simple shit too complicated. Chicks are not dumb they know if they're attractive and a guy is interested in them it's because they're attractive!!

I mean, what's your approach if but you honestly find her attractive?? Something like, "You know, there's just something about you that screams you completed a brilliant thesis. Can we get together and read it sometime?"

Some chicks curiously want you attracted to other aspects of them more than their beauty but rub is, why else would you be interested in finding more out about them if it wasn't for their beauty???

Frankly, I'm not the kind of guy who would worry about something like success rate of meeting women in this situation versus that situation...and I've been much more successful than not with them. Guys need to lose this myth that somehow hot chicks are just so inaccessible to them. Chicks are as hot for guys as guys are for chicks nowadays. But you'll never find out if you don't do a bench press or a pull up or a crunch or get some clothes that fit you. If the first thing you notice about a chick is appearance, why wouldn't you think the first thing they notice about a guy is his?? That's 50 pct. of the battle.

 

[meesterperfect]

i consider myself an expert in this field because on average this happens to me about 200 times a day, i probably see 1000 super hot chics on the street each day.
just say hi.
if you are walking opposite directions its tough.
but if you say hi how are you, if shes interested she will respond positively, then you ask for her number before you part ways .
"Can I have your number and maybe well go out someday soon" if not,,,,don't worry.

 

[Hot Mega]

This is true.Trying to pick up a girl in church or at a funeral is just plain tacky.

Yeah,that's total bullshit,and I'm living proof of it.

up,that's probably your best bet.The same thing happens to me all the time.

Here's the problem with that,If she's in the better than average looking category,then chances are that there at least 5 other guys ahead of you waiting that one out,so the odds of you actually getting her are slim considering that you just entered the game and the other guys have already laid the ground work.

Also,and I speak from personal experience,even if her b/f is on the way out,he may not see it that way,and if something does become of you and her,there more than likely will be ramifications usually developing into a confrontation and sometimes altercation of sorts.I'm sorry,one of the first things you should ask yourself in a situation like that is "is she worth it?",and most of the time,the answer is no.

The one thing that I've learned about girls is that even if they aren't into you at all,most of them don't know how to graciously turn a guy down,so in effect,they usually play nice and string you along until you finally give up or or make a fool out of yourself.

I don't know you or your lifestyle and I'm fairly certain you don't know me or mine...so I don't know how presume to know what's "totally bullshit" other than what's been your experiences. And I don't ask myself anything before I meet a chick. I just assume nothing.

Seems like you've had a pretty tough run of luck meeting chicks. Maybe it's me and don't take this personal but you sound pretty defeated out the gate.

I don't worry what other guys might be in the mix....I don't worry about things I can't control nor have any idea about. Of course, I would prefer she's not in a relationship but I'm not the guy who assumes anything based on "relationships" other than what she says and what I see. Why in the world would I worry about how many guys are ahead of me and what kind of relationships she might have before I say one word to her??. That's not even a factor in my thinking and based on my experience, it makes no real life sense anyway..unless she's an NSA chick (in which case it's likely that You Might end up in her "rotation" or become her "designated hitter" outright), she's either single, has 1 guy she's fucking or married. I can see by some of your considerations before you even say one word to a chick why your success might not be as good as it could be. I don't judge chicks by the last chick I met. Every situation is different and it's only fair to me and to her that I treat it that way.

Should I thank you now?? It's because guys think like you, that guys like me keep picking up on all the chicks you think have 10 b/fs. You can't imagine how many chicks can't meet guys they might be interested in because too many guys think they might not measure up to who she might be fucking. When in many cases she's not fucking anybody.

Some chicks do string guys along. Uhh, so! You're not going to approach a woman and give yourself an opportunity with her because she might string you along?? If you can't figure out that she is doing it pretty quickly then that's a separate problem. But the point is you've given yourself the opportunity to meet her which is what this whole discussion is all about. And if it doesn't work out, you're no worse of than you were before you met her

 

[snaptrap]

I dont envy the moden dating scene, modern must worry some guy approaching them randomly on the street, is either looking to abduct, rape, murder or have some sort sinister intent that will see them on the side of a milk carton or become a statistic on the news.

Althoug there are a few exeptions, my sister just told me another thing.


- She never responds to guy that says hello after she has seen him looking lower than her chin. Most guys do not think girls won't notive you looking at "them". But the truth is, there are less guys looking at their faces.

- She never gives phonenumbers, adresses, and even when he looks like nice guy she gives a fake name. When he proves to be a nice guy she explains why she gave a fake name.

- When not liking a guy, she picks up her cell phone and pretends to have a conversation with her boyfriend. After she hangs up she tells the stalker something like:"That was my BF, we are going to the cinema tonight." Then she continues the conversation. Most guys stop persuing her a.s.a.p., since they know she has a BF.

- She doesn't even think of meeting a random guy on the street who could end up being the father of her children.

And finally she told me...

All women plan ahead. When they shop, they shop. When they work, they work, when they sport, they sport,.....when they go out, they like to meet men.

That's the end of my daygame.

 

[shayd]

My advice: don't force anything.

 

[Bone]

So what can a guy do?

first, snap out of it and then follow these instructions:

be nice and pleasant. wait for an opportune time to say something witty or interesting consistent with the setting. don't be bashful with her your first words, instead make them direct and personal with eye contact.

if she wants to go out with you, that's her choice, not yours.

no fisherman catches every fish. sometimes he comes home empty. men are fisherman so to speak. that means it doesn't matter what happened the last time, we will go out fishing again as we should for we are hungry fishermen and women are the fish.

 

[Hot Mega]

Althoug there are a few exeptions, my sister just told me another thing.


- She never responds to guy that says hello after she has seen him looking lower than her chin. Most guys do not think girls won't notive you looking at "them". But the truth is, there are less guys looking at their faces.

- She never gives phonenumbers, adresses, and even when he looks like nice guy she gives a fake name. When he proves to be a nice guy she explains why she gave a fake name.

- When not liking a guy, she picks up her cell phone and pretends to have a conversation with her boyfriend. After she hangs up she tells the stalker something like:"That was my BF, we are going to the cinema tonight." Then she continues the conversation. Most guys stop persuing her a.s.a.p., since they know she has a BF.

- She doesn't even think of meeting a random guy on the street who could end up being the father of her children.

And finally she told me...

All women plan ahead. When they shop, they shop. When they work, they work, when they sport, they sport,.....when they go out, they like to meet men.

That's the end of my daygame.

Like I say below vvv "Every situation is different..." And while her perspective may be instructive it is one just woman's perspective and keep in mind she is your sister. I have one axiom, If you keep doing what you're doing and giving what you're giving, you'll keep getting what you're getting. My approach has worked for me many more times than not, that's all I can go by.

I don't judge chicks by the last chick I met. Every situation is different and it's only fair to me and to her that I treat it that way.

And if it doesn't work out, you're no worse of than you were before you met her

no fisherman catches every fish. sometimes he comes home empty. men are fisherman so to speak. that means it doesn't matter what happened the last time, we will go out fishing again as we should for we are hungry fishermen and women are the fish.

Exactly. "Every situation is different.."

I don't judge chicks by the last chick I met. Every situation is different and it's only fair to me and to her that I treat it that way.

And if it doesn't work out, you're no worse of than you were before you met her

 

[zell]

I don't know you or your lifestyle and I'm fairly certain you don't know me or mine...so I don't know how presume to know what's "totally bullshit" other than what's been your experiences. And I don't ask myself anything before I meet a chick. I just assume nothing.

Sorry I wasn't clearer.When I say that it's B.S.,what I'm referring to is that what is gold and works for you when picking up girls doesn't necessarily mean that it's going to work for others.If it did,then everyone would just follow your guidelines and no guy would be single.We obviously know that's not the case,and it's one of the reasons that strip clubs are in business.

Seems like you've had a pretty tough run of luck meeting chicks. Maybe it's me and don't take this personal but you sound pretty defeated out the gate.

You are right,I have had incredibly bad luck with girls,and I have no problem admitting that,but it's not like I've never gotten anything.The thing that I've learned is that whatever people think about how to pick up girls,or whatever seminar that you want to pay whatever amount of money to learn how to pick up girls,any guy cannot just get any girl that he wants.Some girls are just not into certain guys and that's that,so yeah,give it your best shot,how ever you do your thing,and that's all you can do.

Think of it like going to the casino to gamble.Every guy has their type of game that they like to play usually because that's the game that they are most successful at playing.Some guys are good at blackjack,others are good at roulette.You know that you are not going to win every time you play,but if you play the game that you are the best at,then you have a better chance of coming out on top at the end of the night.

You may be very good a picking up girls in random places,and I applaud you for that,but I'm not that guy.I have tried,and I was very confident in my approach,but in the end,I was just left holding mu dick in my hand.Ultimately,I realized that that's not the way for me,so instead of wasting my time,I meet girls in places that girls like to meet people,and usually for me,that's not the grocery store or passing them by on the street.

I don't worry what other guys might be in the mix....I don't worry about things I can't control nor have any idea about. Of course, I would prefer she's not in a relationship but I'm not the guy who assumes anything based on "relationships" other than what she says and what I see. Why in the world would I worry about how many guys are ahead of me and what kind of relationships she might have before I say one word to her??. That's not even a factor in my thinking and based on my experience, it makes no real life sense anyway..unless she's an NSA chick (in which case it's likely that you might end up in her "rotation" or become her "designated hitter" outright), she's either single, has 1 guy she's fucking or married. I can see by some of your considerations before you even say one word to a chick why your success might not be as good as it could be. I don't judge chicks by the last chick I met. Every situation is different and it's only fair to me and to her that I treat it that way.

Hey bro,what ever works for you.I ain't knockin' your game,but I just don't waste my time on chicks like that because I haven't had good success.If a baseball player is batting .100,you better believe that he is going to do something to change his approach at the plate.I've changed my approach and it's not your method,and it may not get me as many girls,but the ones I get I'm happy with and really that all I give a shit about.

Should I thank you now?? It's because guys think like you, that guys like me keep picking up on all the chicks you think have 10 b/fs. You can't imagine how many chicks can't meet guys they might be interested in because too many guys think they might not measure up to who she might be fucking. When in many cases she's not fucking anybody.[/QUOTE]

I never said anything about a girl having 10 boyfriends.What I was referring to is that I don't want to be waiting in the meatline,especially if I know that's the case.

Some chicks do string guys along. Uhh, so! You're not going to approach a woman and give yourself an opportunity with her because she might string you along?? If you can't figure out that she is doing it pretty quickly then that's a separate problem. But the point is you've given yourself the opportunity to meet her which is what this whole discussion is all about. And if it doesn't work out, you're no worse of than you were before you met her

I really wasn't tying to say that,and personally,if I know that I'm getting strung along,and I usually know fairly early in the game,I bounce,because it's not worth my time and effort.

I hope you aren't taking this as me having a negative tone towards you,because that is not my intention.I'm just letting you know that every guy is different,and like you have said,every situation is different,so I wouldn't expect what works for you to work for everyone else.

- She doesn't even think of meeting a random guy on the street who could end up being the father of her children.

And finally she told me...

All women plan ahead. When they shop, they shop. When they work, they work, when they sport, they sport,.....when they go out, they like to meet men.

That's the end of my daygame.

This is pretty much on the money most of the time.I think that a lot depends on where in the country you live and the type of girls in your area.Where I live you aren't gonna get that much action trying to get girls off the street.

I think that you can get girls on the street if you live in either Florida or SoCal where the weather is hot most of the year and the girls just seem to be more open.

 

[Hot Mega]

You are right,I have had incredibly bad luck with girls,and I have no problem admitting that,but it's not like I've never gotten anything.

I didn't mean to seem like I was coming out swinging but some of the stuff you responded with is so foreign to my thinking that it made no sense to me based on my experiences. I respect everything in your response.

I'll be honest, I'm a bit narcissistic...I care about my physical appeal to chicks. From my experience, chicks respond the same way guys respond to physical attraction. So maybe my approach is complete BS and chicks couldn't care less what I say because they think I might be attractive to them anyway.

Either way in my book, finding a comfort level with your internal confidence is what any man should strive for in meeting women in any situation.