Do you ever wonder how some guys are successful with women?

[prof_porn]

Case in point:

I have a good education, ok looks, I talk well, I dress well. I'm that suburban kid you see in the OC etc.

Yet guys without half my attributes do so much better then me. Bumping into this and that classmate, they are all married and shit. I cant even find a stable gf.

Someone solve the riddle?

 

[Mr. Hyde]

it's all about your game, and that term is hard to quantify.

 

[prof_porn]

Care to try?

 

[Mr. Hyde]

it's a combo of your looks, money, attitude, assertiveness, sense of humor, intelligence, style, physical appearance, athletic ability, and a bunch of other crap. Some guys, it comes easy to. Some have to work at. Some will NEVER have it. Your game is also dependent on your target market.

 

[PirateKing]

You're trying to hard to impress and women can sense your insecurity. You shouldn't have to try so hard to look the right way, say the right things, and flaunt your assets. Indifference is the key.

No offense, but people who assess personal worth by money and attractiveness irritate me. I still like ya though.

 

[BlueBalls]

No.

 

[Not Sure]

Their supply of chloroform and rags are superior to my on sadly.

 

[Spleen]

Because they don't spend their time wondering why other guys are more popular with girls than they are.

Confidence is all you need.

 

[rizwano]

the charm

 

[ace.venturer]

Maybe you're tooo nice. :dunno:

 

[HeartBroker]

Do you ever wonder how some guys are successful with women?

Not really.

 

[CunningStunts]

My take... you can play games, and that can work, but the better way is to do your own thing, enjoy it, and then you will tend to radiate a vibe that people will dig including women. You can call that "confidence" but it goes deeper than that. I can't explain it in words, it's like explaining the color red to a blind person, but you know it when you see it. :2 cents:

 

[DOA82]

Who cares what other guys do.

What works for them might not work for you and why the hell should be copying these assholes?

The whole point of the statement "Be yourself" is self explanatory, if the expression was "Be the dickhead at the bar" the world would be a dull place.

 

[HeartBroker]

The whole point of the statement "Be yourself" is self explanatory, if the expression was "Be the dickhead at the bar" the world would be a dull place.

:rofl2:

Hellyeah!

 

[Supafly]

You must shed the concept of thinling that females are like aliens or whatnot.

They are just like you, they like to chat, they like to have fun, they like to fuck.

If you think about a babe aproaching you, and you see she is really all tense and unsure... do you find that attractive? No.

And this works vice versa, you just have to be feeling good and not be desperate.

 

[johnmice]

Minutes apart, merged

well, in my opinion it's a question of temperament:
if you are idealist or a rationalist, which make up approx. 15% of the american population, it's evident that it's harder for them to find someone they can really connect with.
(if you want to study this website/ read the books:
=> http://www.keirsey.com/)
by the way: I guess that almost 100% of all pornstars belong to the temperament of the artisans (the playmates)

it's a combo of your looks, money, attitude, assertiveness, sense of humor, intelligence, style, physical appearance, athletic ability, and a bunch of other crap. Some guys, it comes easy to. Some have to work at. Some will NEVER have it. Your game is also dependent on your target market.

matters aswell and you can change your appearance to a certain degree, but temperament is inborn, you can't change that (Keirsey's theory on Temperament and Character)

personality is the product of temperament (inborn) and character (result of the interaction beetween social surrounding and genetic disposal

 

[grower_boy]

You just gotta find the right girl for you. At least, that's how I feel about it.

No.

:1orglaugh

 

[knowone]

They're Bullshit artists.

 

[LukeEl]

Their supply of chloroform and rags are superior to my on sadly.

You have to go with hand towels at least a 500 thread count Egyptian Cotton and I would go with ether.

 

[prof_porn]

I think it may well be that I'm too nice.

It just baffles me. I have everything, even live in the right neighbourhoods.

I tried being myself, not working.

I dunno.