Girlfriend never wants to have sex anymore!

[Ashleigh]

Just make her feel guilty about it, and I'm sure your fortunes will change.

Trust me, that won't work. It'll just piss her off and then she'll stop cooking for him too! lol

 

[General Warcock]

I don't know man, if can cook I'd just buy a fleshlight and consider your problems solved!

 

[tunsty]

You Might want to consider changing your board-name. :hatsoff:

 

[D-rock]

In the overall scheme of things one every two weeks doesn’t seem like a catastrophic thing. It definitely doesn’t seem like something that a deal-breaker or something that can't be worked out. When I first seen the title of this thread I was thinking you were going months or years without it or something.

 

[smoknn]

ive found out...if you think someone is seeing someone else////99 percent of the time...they are

 

[Montrealman]

A lot of great advice and opinions here but this is the one that could out the most. :2 cents:

K I'm gonna give a female perspective here, hope it helps or makes sense.

First off...can you pinpoint the reason why her libido is so low? I mean its pretty clear here that she's not witholding sex because she doesn't love you - obviously she does if you say that your relationship is otherwise great. So its likely just the generic low libido that pretty much EVERY woman will suffer from at some point or another. So ask yourself this:

a) How high is her stress level? If its high, or she has alot of work responsibilities, does all the housework, or generally has alot of high stress stuff going on, thats the single most BIGGEST libido killer. Try picking up some of the duties around the house, give her a back rub, take her to the spa...if you suspect that she really is too tired at the end of the day because of all her daily crap going on, then try to fix that first and see if it helps.

b) maybe the spark is gone? I mean chances are is you've had sex hundreds of times before and maybe she's bored with the routine? This isn't here to offend, but to maybe help out with trying new things. Talk to her about it...communication is key to a good sex life. See if theres anything new she wants to try...maybe change up your foreplay routine a bit or add in something new. Or just surprise her one nite by lighting candles, putting down rose petals and seeing where it takes you. You'd be surprised how far a little effort in lovemaking can take you.

c) has she started any new medications lately? You mentioned the pill, that definitely could be a factor. Maybe talk about a different method of birth control or see if she'd be willing to switch to a new pill to try it out?

Bottom line here, is that you have something good...getting juvenile and pissy about a lack of sex isn't the way to get what you want. Most of the advice here is either "deal with no sex or move on" which shouldn't be something you should be listening to if you really value your lady and your relationship and future with her. Talk to her, be open about your feelings in a non pushy way, just explain that you miss her physical company and want to be closer to her on that level. I'm sure she'll understand. I've suffered from low libido before, and honestly my man fixed it simply by keeping the house cleaner for me...just helping out with chores took alot of pressure off of me, and gave me more time in the day to say thank you Just listen to your lady, I'm sure she knows why she doesn't want to have sex...and if she doesn't then it might be time she talks to her doctor to see if theres anything physically going wrong.

Hope this helped.

 

[PirateKing]

this thread is old so i may be too late but its very possible that shes cheating on you. Dont marry her.

 

[Montrealman]

Uh...I meant HELP out the most.

 

[Jack Davenport]

this thread is old so i may be too late but its very possible that shes cheating on you. Dont marry her.

If she all of a sudden buys new underwear, she's cheating.

Mark it!

 

[mrtrebus]

Your girlfriend never wants to have sex? Just give her the spanish archer my friend & find someone new!

 

[JayJohn85]

It is possible she could be getting it behind your back. But dont jump to conclusions or rattle the cage. I suggest you do what all the agonies aunts tell women to do on suspected love cheat husbands, Check out her mobile phone. Chicks will do this so no u. Thats directed to someone who is gonna lecture me on invasion of privacy.

Ok if the news is good and she isnt going behind your back. Its likely cause the mojo has gone out of the whole thing for her anyway(us blokes are simple creatures) Your gonna have to woo her again, Do romantic shit, Take her out for dinner. Create the feel of dating again. I know a long and tedious process lulz(the things blokes have to go through to get some) but yep you be shagging like rabbits for weeks in no time.

 

[biomech]

Dump her fast. If she isnt giving to you, she could be to someone else. :2 cents:

 

[mrtrebus]

Dump her fast. If she isnt giving to you, she could be to someone else. :2 cents:

Because you are shit in bed!!

 

[JayJohn85]

Because you are shit in bed!!

Oh master coach me in the ways of the ponani:rofl:

 

[Legzman]

I'm in a similar situation myself. We went from fucking twice a day to nothing but once a month or 2. Its to the point now I don't even bother to bring it up. I got fed up trying to get her in the mood and just leave it alone now. Internet porn is the only thing that keeps my loyal at this point.

 

[Icewater Jones]

She should know by now what you are used to. Keep pushing for it... that way she can't say you're getting it elsewhere. Don't let her play dumb. Make her either give you a concrete answer for why things have changed sexually, or give up some ass. Make sure she knows that she should keep your wants in mind, if not, there's no sense in sticking around.

 

[Lust]

i have'nt read anything but the title of this thread and so i'm responding based purely on that.

create and deploy an action list:

1. dump her
2. go out and get laid
3. let us now how awesome it was
4. wash, rinse repeat steps 2 and 3

 

[whalers90]

I was seriously considering going to a club then and there to pick up a chick to have sex with. But I had no-one to go with. I don't know what to do anymore. I was too angry last night to even masturbate to get it out of my system.

i understand the frustration...but if you want to break up with her then do it like a man, why did you need someone to go to a club with you? to witness you messing with another girl and for someone to go back and tell her?? and then start a bunch of unnecessary drama?
i think the idea that night would have been to hit the club secretly/discreetly and maybe get your rocks off without any kinda paper trail
if that was even a possibility,i saw a bunch of replies saying that if you have already chose to go that path then you have given up on the relationship.
just my :2 cents:

 

[~Mandi!~]

personally i love sex. if i could have sex 3 times a day every day i would. the only thing i could thing of and im sure its not the best advice ever would be to wait it out and make her come to you. dont please her the first time (possibly making her want to get off more.) and then fuck her stupid. be creative. i dont think ur relationship is doomed because my boyfriend doesnt match my desire to have sex all the time, but i think u can work it out.

good luck

 

[PirateKing]

personally i love sex. if i could have sex 3 times a day every day i would. the only thing i could thing of and im sure its not the best advice ever would be to wait it out and make her come to you. dont please her the first time (possibly making her want to get off more.) and then fuck her stupid. be creative. i dont think ur relationship is doomed because my boyfriend doesnt match my desire to have sex all the time, but i think u can work it out.

good luck

i think you're getting carried away with this Mandi persona.