Girls who fine porn offensive...?

[Ike Stain]

Man needs porn—it's just a fact of life.

Tell at least she can be sure you'll never cheat!

(Although she it sounds like she thinks porn in cheating...)

Honestly, it sounds like she has some real issues.

Probably best to move on.

 

[StanScratch]

Hello, liquidkaos. This is an emotionally filled post in which I show much empathy towards you. With these words of wisdom, I am giving you - a complete internet stranger - supporting words that at the same time place my being light years above you in a subtle manner few can detect, yet at the same time will make the reader themselves feel somewhat small, yet anger.
I am also giving you an example of the same thing that has happened to me, but with the twist that at the end, everything works out, painting myself the hero, and again, painting you as the loser with a subtle brush. Finally, I will admonish you for doing something I actually do at the same time, mainly because my own back stories that I have painted here have been a complete lie.
I do this despite the fact that, had I done a little research, I should realize that this thread is three years old, that you have not posted in two years, and have not visited the forum in two months.
Bow down in my light-bulbed glory.

 

[vodkazvictim]

Why was this thread revived? This dilemma has already been solved for better or worse.

 

[Deepcover]

My ex was offended by porn and thought it was degrading to women and all that. Ironically, during sex she liked to be treated like shit, get spanked, her hair pulled, finger up the ass, call her a slut kinda stuff. smh..

lol...see how fucked up women can be????? Seriously smh

 

[Rey C.]

She's psycho crazy. Any girl that goes through a guy's personal belongings is not one to be trusted...imo

To be honest, I've never met a girl who wouldn't do that, given the opportunity. And the more insecure the girl, the more likely it is that she'll have a need to know what you're doing every second of the day and what you did (and who you did ) before she met you.

Unless the guy is pussy-whipped (which is becoming more & more common in the U.S., IMO) or the girl is a doormat, it seems to me that a healthy relationship is one that has boundaries that both people can respect.

Some girls (and guys) are offended by porn. If you're really into porn, it might be hard to make a relationship work with a person like that. No biggie. People have different likes and dislikes. Not everyone is made to be a couple. But I find it kind of funny/odd that an ex-stripper(?) who was dancing half-naked in front of this guy's friends would get wound up about him having or looking at porn. So I agree with Deepcover: she was probably "psycho crazy".

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

Some people are just offended by porn. Its something thats still taboo to alot of people, and alot of women are insecure when it comes to their spouse ogling and spanking it to other women. She's not a crazy bitch for not being ok with it- everyone has things they're uncomfortable with and its her right to not be ok with her partner watching porn. BUT what you need to do is figure out if porn is worth losing her over. If you think you can move on and find someone better for you, then by all means, move on and enjoy your porn. But if this girl is the girl you truly want to spend your life with, get over yourself and make it work for her. Everyone has relationship hangup and you'll butt heads on more than just this in your life together. If this truly is the only thing you guys argue about, then I'd say make it work. She sounds like someone you care about and if porn becomes more important than actual living, breathing, loved ones in your life...then I think you've got a problem. Porn isn't exactly something that 100% of the population is ok with....if she was asking you to give up, say, watching tv, or something that wasn't "bad"...then I'd say she's crazy. But alot of women aren't into porn and sometimes you just have to make the effort for the one you love. If my soulmate asked me to give up the Backstreet boys/bacon/any other hobby or thing of enjoyment...I would. But I'd only do that for a soulmate...so you need to figure out if she's the one you want to be with forever. Just my two cents.

 

[Rey C.]

I don't think it was her objection to him looking at porn that made her kinda nutso. I actually don't know that many girls who DO approve of or look at porn - and they're not crazy. In this case, it was her dancing half-naked for his friends (while he was in another room) and yet, having this obsession with porn. If not nuts, she was certainly pretty hypocritical and probably also something of a control freak.

To make a relationship work, both parties have to be willing to compromise, at least some of the time. But if one or the other just wants to focus on their partner's faults or actions, and never their own, that's a person you're better off without, IMO.

Sounds like they broke up anyway. Probably better for both of them.