Have an Ugly Face?

[prazors]

I think I might...

Never have I considered myself ugly, just average I guess. But now I think I'm probably just ugly, I can't seem to get any chicks. WTF??

Is there any non-surgical cure for ugliness?? And don't give me that "well ladies prefer a guy who is smart, awesome personality, blah, blah" Bullshit. Maybe I should work on my abs? Pectoral implants anyone? What should I do!??

My lack of women is starting to make me wonder what's wrong.

 

[jod0565]

Hey, King Kong had hot chicks fall for him, you can too.

Seriously, if you feel your looks are what's keeping the women at bay, just be patient for the one gal that will think you are great. If your looks are what is bothering you, then I suggest a personality analysis and see if maybe you can improve the talking skills and the humor skills.
All my opinions of course.

 

[prazors]

dude, what did I just say?

I appreciate the effort but...
Chicks could care less about the whole funny, witty, interesting man, with a great personality. They're just as shallow as us guys. I need to look like David Hasselhoff, or Fabio.

Jesus, does anyone else have ideas?

 

[Incentive]

You could get some proactive and some good smelling stuff :thumbsup:

 

[prazors]

You could get some proactive and some good smelling stuff :thumbsup:

Don't have acne, & not much of a perfume advocate.

 

[AngelOfDeath]

Must have big wang an big money an fast cahr.

 

[Member2019]

dude, what did I just say? I appreciate the effort but...
Chicks could care less about the whole funny, witty, interesting man, with a great personality. They're just as shallow as us guys. I need to look like David Hasselhoff, or Fabio.

Then you're hanging around the wrong places to meet women.
I don't deny there are MANY women who are like this -- more everyday.
But they tend to be in the same places where such guys are too.

Jesus, does anyone else have ideas?

Change your avenue. Where are you currently trying to meet women?

Also, it's important to note HOW you approach a woman.
Not just the moment you decide to, but from the moment you join a room.
If she thinks she is your 5th or 6th choice, then that will clearly reflect in her consideration of you.

However, if she is the first woman you notice when you walk into a room, then that makes all-the-difference.
Especially for a woman that is not getting much interest from other men.
I'm not saying go after the "ugly" chicks.
In fact, I don't know how many times a friend of mine comes up with some stupid "standard" that says a beautiful woman isn't his type -- just because of 1 quirk.

What I'm talking about going after the "friend" in a group of girls that isn't the so-called "hottest" of the bunch that all other guys are drooling over.
My favorite scene that simplifies this concept was in the movie A Beautiful Mind.
It was the epitome of this, because in my view, 2 of the brunettes in that group of women were way, way hotter than the so-called "hot blond" of the group.
I literally stared at one of them instead of the blond when I first saw that scene -- and didn't realize what he was talking about until half-way through.

Because I wasn't even noticing the blond!

 

[jdb67]

Don't have acne, & not much of a perfume advocate.

You Might not like Aftershave, but the Women do!!! So go and get some....

While your at it, You Might want look at your wardrobe... If the women aint looking at you then you aint wearing the right gear!!!

Decent threads and a nice scent is half the Battle!!!

 

[member2686]

Well, not to be rude, but you can be the most physically attractive man out there, but with a pessimistic attitude and apparent utter lack of self-confidence (as you seem to me to have exhibited in your opening post, IMO), I'm afraid you'd have a hard time getting even a plant to lean in your direction.

Moping, acting helpless, and whining aren't going to make women come crawling at your feet. Believe in yourself, be active, be social, and don't worry so much about what people think of your looks. Over half the "battle" you seem to be waging is self-confidence/self-esteem.

Just my :2 cents:, FWIW.

 

[Marie]

I think we need to see a picture.

 

[McRocket]

Well, if you are a below average looking guy. And you are not in great shape and you lack confidence or money or power then you had better except the fact that you will not attract gorgeous women. Period. Really unattractive women will not attract you. Why would it not work in reverse? Point is you have to be realistic.

I am not gorgeous. And there is no way I would ever come on to a gorgeous woman. That's just stupid. I come on to the rough equivalent level of attractiveness of woman I think I am. And I do fine (imo).

Now if you believe you are ugly and you want a beautiful woman and you will not settle for less there are a few things you could do.
-WORK OUT. Join a gym and get yourself into the best shape you can. Don't go ape or use steroids. Just get a solid routine going, eat a solid diet and stick with it. Ask people who know how to work out (Freeones members BNF or Juballs seem to really know their way around a gym. You could ask them). And STICK with it. There are alot of guys your age (I am assuming you are between 18-24) that are relatively fit. There are not that many that are in really great shape. And I have known some attractive woman that judge a good/great body more important to them then a good/great face. And they tend to hang out at gyms.
-try and get some unbiased female opinions about your wardrobe/personal grooming. Get a few opinions about how they think you could improve. Many women love to 'dress guys'.
-but if you still are not satisfied; go to a plastic surgeon. And make sure he/she is a good one; with a great reputation. An initial consultation should be free or cost a minimal amount. And ask their opinion. If they are reputable (and MAKE SURE THEY ARE); they will be VERY busy and not have any need to try and talk you into anything.
The good ones will tell you EXACTLY what they think of your face. And they will tell you what can be done - if anything.
I am not suggesting you get any procedures - I am assuming they are way out of your wallet size anyway. But at least you will know.


The bottom line: make the best with what you have. And be realistic, but not fatalistic.
Finally, woman tend to be more superficial when they are younger. It may not help much now; but the older you get; the less important a 'perfect' face usually will be to women. I have found that once they hit about 25 or so; their need for the ultimate pretty boy tends to start falling away. Not for all of them; but definitely most of them in my opinion.

I wish you well.

 

[prazors]

Thanks for the replies everyone...

I think I understand the whole confidence thing now. From now on I'm just going to walk around like my cock is a force to be reckoned with. Ladies will bow down to the awesome destruction my "junk" will create.

And as far as style, thats a pretty good idea too. I'm not too happy about buying fancy-smancy clothes, but oh well... I'm guessing American Eagle or Express are good places to start. Its been a while since I've worn a suit too.

 

[member2686]

I'd be less worried about your "junk" if I were you and more concerned with WHY you're not feeling good about yourself - remember that confidence is attractive, while arrogance can be quite ugly.

Everyone has wonderful assets to offer another person or people/society. Even really socially-offensive, arrogant, prick/bitchy-type people have something to offer to someone; so do you, ugly or handsome.

Do a self-assessment of your plusses, not your minuses, and go with that!

Carpe diem, my friend! Best of luck! :thumbsup: :hatsoff:

 

[member20672]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder....and if all else fails, poke that eye out. In all serious w/o reading my fellow members comments, just stick with confidence and worry more about a female liking what's inside of you.

 

[USNinc]

Stop looking to be what you're not and be proud of what you are.

I have always believed that my imperfections make me perfect.
I may never be the best looking person in the crowd, best dressed, best smelling or funniest guy in the room.....and that takes a load off my shoulders.
I can enter a room being me and people can either like it or not....no biggie to me.

 

[Member2019]

I think I understand the whole confidence thing now.
From now on I'm just going to walk around like my cock is a force to be reckoned with.Ladies will bow down to the awesome destruction my "junk" will create.

I hope this is a joke.
While there is something to be said about not horsing around and literally asking a woman if she just wants to fuck, and move on to the next one if she doesn't (I know, sounds crazy, but for some men, it works),
but literally focusing on what gets her attention, and what she's looking for, is a major way to land a beautiful lover for the evening.

And as far as style, thats a pretty good idea too. I'm not too happy about buying fancy-smancy clothes, but oh well... I'm guessing American Eagle or Express are good places to start.
Its been a while since I've worn a suit too.

While style is a matter of perspective, just professional attire is typically a good move.
You don't have to go crazy, hit the outlet stores as you don't have to empty your pocketbook.
It sells success, it sells a professional tone, and it often gets women to notice more than they guy with a Polo (let alone T-shirt) next to you.

 

[Sweeper]

I'm so good looking.... well at least I think so...

 

[McRocket]

Great, great post.

 

[prazors]

**********,
that was an interesting post. I agree that women have more pressures to look attractive. However, us guys have to look appealing too, maybe we don't do as much shit to make ouselves look better, but its still there.

Appearance is THE thing that initially makes a woman attracted to you, personality and all the important bullshit falls into place afterwards.

Its cool though, I'll just compensate my ugly mug with something else. I could always become more muscular or dress better I suppose. Having a nice car helps too I'm sure. Sad but fucking true, the end.

 

[calpoon]

here's what you need to do bro. get a job. get some cash.
if you are lazy you can sell drugs. I really don't feel like telling you how to do that. ask someone else. it's easy.

then once you have a lot of money buy a hooker. problem solved.

I personally think that you are a douche bag, and that's your problem. there are a ton of unnatractive women that would love to be with anyone that would give them the time of day. you are obviosuly superficial enough to care so much on looks, it's no wonder you don't think very highly of yours. so this is the best way for you to get hot chicks. I am not endorsing it, i'm just stating the fact.