How to deal with manipulative people?

[gloyster]

I know someone, well a few people that manipulate people around. This one though I will ask you guys about My sisters douchy smug boyfriend, always helps the family out therefore looks "golden"

How would you about handling someone who sits quietly giving you scowling and giving you dirty looks while you talk. This person happens to do this in front of my family and has been seeing my sister for many years. The guy has managed to make people believe it's me who has the problem, if I was to react to him in the slightest that is.

During all of the evil looks I usually get him and my sister going back and forth either smirking at me or giving eachother looks. Everyone else on the outside only picks up on there fake good nature(that they show to them) which in turn makes them think something or someone must upset them if they are silent.

Also is there anyway or confronting the situation without looking the bad one? Trust ne for some reason I'm picked on easily and it's the snakes that seem to get away with it despite me being the "younger brother"

I've noticed whenever I'm in a good mood or centre of attention they look upset, and are usually upbeat when I'm quiet/pissed off. My other OLDER sister has also turned on me due to influence of these guys.

 

[busaguy79]

Its called a Colt 1911 .45, solve your problem there with ease!

 

[Ace Bandage]

Stab the smug motherfucker in the throat. Then deliver the people's elbow to his prone body as he lays there gasping for his last breath.

 

[Tittyman5000]

Just use reverse psychology, you be the helpful good guy, the center of attention with the good attitude, make you important, confident and successful. Im sure if they don't like it, their true feeling's will show and people will see who they truly are.
Nice move on changing the avatar :thumbsup: Sorry 2 be so hard on you but we need to haze the nubies to make sure your worthy :rofl2: I said Hard On LOL

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

Yeah, I was gonna suggest cut him. Deep.

Or just stop associating with them. I know that its your sister, but if she's turned on ya too, she's probably not worth being around. I have close family members who are like this and I only talk/see them maybe once a year or two. Life is too short to deal with douchenozzles.

 

[~~whimsy~~]

I did not read the original post and find it oddly violent in here with the responses.

 

[lurkingdirk]

Start anonymously mailing him boxes of poop.

Make a passing reference once, after about 6 deliveries. Imply that he is lucky to be alive.

The manipulation will vanish. I guarantee it.

 

[grower_boy]

I'd say talk to the rest of the family about what's going on. If they don't listen to you or believe you then, what can you do?

Maybe if you just start ignoring them or start acting apathetic, they'll realize that you are an important person.

 

[John_8581]

Come right out with it... When he gives you that scowling look of disgust.... say, "What the fuck is your problem?" You've been doing it to me for years. And I'm really sick and tired of it" ...

 

[TheOrangeCat]

manipulate him.

The poop idea is good too.

 

[lurkingdirk]

The poop idea is good too.

Thank you, sir.
:hatsoff:

 

[gloyster]

Come right out with it... When he gives you that scowling look of disgust.... say, "What the fuck is your problem?" You've been doing it to me for years. And I'm really sick and tired of it" ...

AND everyone else would look at me as the guy starting shit.

 

[TheOrangeCat]

well, if you're gonna be all afraid of what people think ..... step up or step off, my friend

 

[Hot Mega]

Well...in all honesty I don't see how anyone can reasonably tell you something worthwhile about how to address your complaint since we're only getting your side of it.

Unless the guy is being physically violent with your sis and without knowing both sides...I would just say be cordial with the guy and stay out of his and your sis' biz...

Most of what you mention seems like stuff for 4th graders IMO. Take comfort though in knowing you won't bother yourself with comparatively minor shit like this someday.

 

[John_8581]

Yeah, Orange Cat is right. You have to stand up for yourself.

AND everyone else would look at me as the guy starting shit.

Allright. Don't do it in mixed company. You should meet with him privately... Get his take on it ... Tell him that you don't appreciate all of the disparaging faces and smirks. And if he continues with them, you'll know he's a loser and then you know what you need to do, you have to ignore him. Turn and have a conversation in the opposite direction with the other people in the group. Away from having to look at him.

 

[gloyster]

I see what you guys mean. I have non verbally stood up for myself plus I have also dealt with certain comments whenever my sister has decided to be sly towards me.

Thing is this guy just doesn't say a whole lot in front of people and usually says sly things when people are not around and it's just one on one otherwise he uses his facial expressions to show what he things but it's quite unjustified usually. It annoys me mostly because I get on with everyone and it's only a few stuck up snobby people who judge me and he is one of those.

 

[Nester6]

I'd say talk to the rest of the family about what's going on. If they don't listen to you or believe you then, what can you do?

Maybe if you just start ignoring them or start acting apathetic, they'll realize that you are an important person.

Pretend that it isn't happening and be your happy, confident self while ignoring the childish looks.

 

[HE1FiNEARTiST]

walk right up to your sister's bf and say, "i dont fucking like you" and punch him in the mouth. grab his wallet and grab his I.D. and tell him, "you may know who i am, but i know who you are" keep his I.D. and punch him again. hes gonna treat you like king on them family functions for now on

 

[PirateKing]

I say do what John said, but if he continues to mock you then do what HE1 said. Simple as that. If he just likes to be condescending then you need to instill fear in him so he'll remember to think twice. Doesn't hurt to sodomize the guy either, just to emotionally scar him.

 

[GodsEmbryo]

Install hidden camera's, let a detective follow them, hack their fafebook, email and other accounts, dig into their dirty little lives and blackmail them, threaten them, follow them in your car wherever they go and make sure to dim the lights, sneak into their house and change nothin apart from small things so that they know, call them in the middle of the night and say nothing, stalk them, ... I mean, learn from the best politicians