Love of legs may lead to infidelity - Help?

[NavyBlue]

I've always been fascinated with long, beautiful legs, but I think over the past few years that fascination has turned into almost an obsession. I am married for about 3 years with a son, but whenever we go out I can't help but checking out all the ladies, and the ones wearing short skirts or really short shorts usually get my full attention. If the lady has long, smooth, and gorgeous legs I would keep sneaking a glance every now and then. My wife have average legs, not the ones that I go crazy over, and I am concerned that eventually I may cheat on her or leave her because I really want to be with a girl with the legs that I crave. I do love my wife but this is something that I can't seem to get over. I think it may even lower my sexual desire for my wife. I guess I just want to know if it's common to lust over other women with particular assets and what you can do about it if it's becoming a problem in your relationship with your GF or wife. Thanks.

 

[Alyssa Rose]

I'm not sure exactly what I would do about the obession over legs but something you can do to make your wifes legs more appealing you could have her wear heels more. When I wear heels (when most women do) their legs look 10 X's better. So try that maybe? Sorry I wish I could be of more help, if worst comes to worst, you could always talk to her about it.:dunno:

 

[D-rock]

I'm not trying to be rude, but actually thinking You Might leave the person you love because somebody else has better legs is pretty sad.

 

[NavyBlue]

I'm not trying to be rude, but actually thinking You Might leave the person you love because somebody else has better legs is pretty sad.

Yeah you are right. It just that I can sense problems in the future if I continue on this path. I don't ever want to be unfaithful to my wife (being that my dad had done it and that led to divorce), but my obsession with legs is causing me to question if Love alone is enough to make you happy despite not finding your wife sexier than other women. I am hoping to get some suggestions on how to shake it off and concentrate on what's important.

 

[Rey C.]

I can't tell you how to shake it off. I mean, it's a feeling that's within you, and I don't think there's anything wrong with it... as long as you don't act on it.

My ex-fiance was one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. She had everything that I liked (physically). She was a Latina, about 5'5", olive skin, silky black hair, big brown eyes, a natural 36D, 37" hips, smallish waist... physically perfect (to my likes & desires). She had a great sense of style and carried herself well at all times. And she was great in bed. So... why didn't I marry her???

That alone was not enough to make up for her being spoiled rotten and acting like a princess too much of the time (which I blame on her mother). So since I wouldn't (didn't) stay with a woman who I was VERY much physically attracted to, I can't imagine leaving a woman, who I love, just to experience what it's like to be between a long pair of legs. Plus, you have a kid. Imagine how bad that would fuck him up. "Daddy left me when I was little so he could bang a girl with hot legs."

Has your wife sort of let herself go since having the baby? Maybe you could get her to join a gym... and it's something you could do together. Despite what some say, women tend to be VERY touchy about their body image. So if you want to try to mold her legs into a form more appealing to you, you're going to have to do it in a VERY subtle way.

But no, don't sink your marriage just to get with a girl with nice legs. And most of all, please don't do that to your kid. Good luck.

 

[holdol]

We're all "girl watchers", but weigh the options man. Family is #1

 

[Jeep!]

Try to help her accentuate what she has, man. Classy high heels, some good stockings, and you can make her legs seem so much nicer. Work with what you have.

 

[gunslingingbird]

If you really loved your wife there's no way you'd even consider leaving her for something as trivial as physical features. I don't think it's unusual that you're looking at other women (it's happened to me every time I've been in a relationship), but you can't have a "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" attitude. For better or for worse you're stuck with your wife. Why did you choose her in the first place? It was probably for more than the fact that she was physically attractive. Think about that. Just remember, you can always look at the menu, just don't order anything.

 

[Elwood70]

Damn,I miss my ex.....

 

[NavyBlue]

If you really loved your wife there's no way you'd even consider leaving her for something as trivial as physical features. I don't think it's unusual that you're looking at other women (it's happened to me every time I've been in a relationship), but you can't have a "grass is greener on the other side of the fence" attitude. For better or for worse you're stuck with your wife. Why did you choose her in the first place? It was probably for more than the fact that she was physically attractive. Think about that. Just remember, you can always look at the menu, just don't order anything.

All excellent points. I post this here because I am quite conflicted about my feelings for my wife vs the desire to get between the legs of the women out there. You are right that my wife does have many good attributes and that's why I married her, but she also has been a biatch from time to time and I feel trapped at times in this marriage. I also love my son and I don't want him to grow up fatherless because of my need to chase women with long legs. I just have to try to get through this feelings that I have for legs. I hate to ruin my marriage for them but at the same time, you only live once and I may eventually give in if my obsession gets worse. I sincerely hope not though.

 

[BlueBalls]

We all know Legzman is one sexy motherfucker but is it worth giving up your family just to be with him?





We all look at others when we're in relationships, but that's what it is just looking. If you're really thinking about straying because of this then I would advise you to look inwards at your relationship, is there something wrong with it to make you think in such a way because if you're even contimplating straying there must be something missing there. Or at least a massive overreaction on your part in how you feel about these other women and how that will reflect on your relationship. Maybe you just like the rest of us, just like to look at a good looking woman :dunno: I dont see any harm in that but, if there's more going on in your mind maybe you and your wife need to discuss things.

 

[gunslingingbird]

she also has been a biatch from time to time and I feel trapped at times in this marriage.

Problems are a part of every relationship. It's whether or not you can work them out that determines whether it's good or bad.

I just have to try to get through this feelings that I have for legs.

That's not gonna happen because it's not something that you just decided one day. You're attracted to women with long legs, and that's the way it's gonna be until the cows come home. I think it might be good for you to discuss the issue with your wife. Tell her what's going through your mind and explain your feelings. I'm pretty sure she'd be more sympathetic to your plight if you tell her straight out than if she finds out you cheated on her. I doubt she would hold a grudge against you because physical attraction is something that you can't do anything about.

I hate to ruin my marriage for them but at the same time, you only live once and I may eventually give in if my obsession gets worse. I sincerely hope not though.

You only live once, yes, but you should've thought of that before you made a commitment to your wife. You don't have to act on your emotions. I know that it's hard to do sometimes, but in the end you're in control of your actions.

 

[mongo18]

I am a severely chronic pervert, to the point where I will lap the block or go down an aisle in the supermarket I have no business being in just to get a better look at a girl. Every day I see tons of women who are way hotter than my wife who I'd love to have sex with, but I never will, because I'm married and I love my wife. I'll keep looking till the day I die or go blind, but I'll never touch another woman, even if I desperately wanted to, because I put my wife's and daughter's happiness before my own, like any real man would.

Beyond that, what makes you so sure that you could even land one of these long-legged hotties?

 

[Rey C.]

Tell her what's going through your mind and explain your feelings. I'm pretty sure she'd be more sympathetic to your plight if you tell her straight out than if she finds out you cheated on her. I doubt she would hold a grudge against you because physical attraction is something that you can't do anything about.

:eek:

You want him to spill his guts about this?! Just lay it all out, that he finds other women more attractive than her? :fight:

Between you and me, what did NavyBlue ever do to you? This is some serious hatred right here. j/k

 

[Alyssa Rose]

I can't tell you how to shake it off. I mean, it's a feeling that's within you, and I don't think there's anything wrong with it... as long as you don't act on it.

My ex-fiance was one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. She had everything that I liked (physically). She was a Latina, about 5'5", olive skin, silky black hair, big brown eyes, a natural 36D, 37" hips, smallish waist... physically perfect (to my likes & desires). She had a great sense of style and carried herself well at all times. And she was great in bed. So... why didn't I marry her???

That alone was not enough to make up for her being spoiled rotten and acting like a princess too much of the time (which I blame on her mother). So since I wouldn't (didn't) stay with a woman who I was VERY much physically attracted to, I can't imagine leaving a woman, who I love, just to experience what it's like to be between a long pair of legs. Plus, you have a kid. Imagine how bad that would fuck him up. "Daddy left me when I was little so he could bang a girl with hot legs."

Has your wife sort of let herself go since having the baby? Maybe you could get her to join a gym... and it's something you could do together. Despite what some say, women tend to be VERY touchy about their body image. So if you want to try to mold her legs into a form more appealing to you, you're going to have to do it in a VERY subtle way.

But no, don't sink your marriage just to get with a girl with nice legs. And most of all, please don't do that to your kid. Good luck.

I was wondering if you could maybe teach a seminar, for like ALL men, so that they could all take on your view point? I must say, that spoiled princess is missing out on a good man.

Now, being a woman, my stance on this is a little differing from some of you guys, You know how you are with long legs? Well thats how my husband is with Asians, (probably not to the extreme that you are but in any case thats what gets him off) & were living in freakin Korea right now, so that being said, if he had wanted to cheat and live out his fantasy, he could, very easily. But he hasn't and he won't because he loves me, doesn't mean he doesn't look at them, but I mean, he's had to tell me to close my mouth more than a couple times when an attractive man walks by, and I'm sure he notices me looking at the men with the ripped abs at the pool on saturdays. Anyways my point is, looking is one thing, touching is another.

she also has been a biatch from time to time and I feel trapped at times in this marriage.

I'm sure if you ask my husband on the right day, there could be no bigger bitch than me. Husbands and wives fight, thats life. When you marry someone its for better and worse not better and better. Too many people these days are getting divorced for no reason, "Oh he wore that orange shirt I hate, guess were gettin divorced" In my opinion people give up WAY to easily, your going to fight, no matter what but you'll get through the fight. Marriage is give & take. & like Rey said, (FYI: this is probably the smartest thing I've heard a man say in a while)

Maybe you could get her to join a gym... and it's something you could do together. Despite what some say, women tend to be VERY touchy about their body image. So if you want to try to mold her legs into a form more appealing to you, you're going to have to do it in a VERY subtle way.

Together, being the key word. Help your wife feel more connected to you and in turn you will feel more connected & attracted to her, which will help ignite a spark that will help bring back the fire that you two once had together. You married her despite her lack of legs, it'd be wrong to divorce her for it.


Good Luck.

 

[Jagger69]

I've got your answer. Anytime you feel the urge to possibly cheat on your wife because of some sexual obsession, just say the words "Steve McNair" and the thought will leave your head as fast as it entered.

My advice is to find lots of porn with hot-legged chicks (and there are plenty of them) and jerk your cock every time you get the urge. Then go take that lovely little lady with the not-so-great legs that you love out to dinner.

 

[Gordar]

Talk to your wife about it.

If legs are really that important to you, there are ways for your wife to make them look better, even though it'll probably take a while before you see any results, as it'll require fitness. Sadly, since they've already tried in the middle ages and failed, making legs longer isn't an option.

If you manage to convince her that it's really that important to you, then she might agree to work on it, just for the sake of your marriage, but don't be surprised if she asks something similar of you.

 

[gunslingingbird]

don't be surprised if she asks something similar of you.

You mean something like hanging a brick from the tip of his dick? :eek:

 

[Serpent7]

I'd love to help but I cant. Only you can decide which is best if you are indeed at an inpass. Good luck!

 

[NavyBlue]

Talk to your wife about it.

If legs are really that important to you, there are ways for your wife to make them look better, even though it'll probably take a while before you see any results, as it'll require fitness. Sadly, since they've already tried in the middle ages and failed, making legs longer isn't an option.

If you manage to convince her that it's really that important to you, then she might agree to work on it, just for the sake of your marriage, but don't be surprised if she asks something similar of you.

The last thing I want to do is making my wife insecure about her body by implying that her legs aren't as sexy as the women that's out there. She has legs that are thicker than what I like and not sure if exercise will help since that'll only make it more muscular/thicker. If there's a surgery out there that can turn any legs into slim, smooth, and beautiful and is 100% safe let me know.

You mean something like hanging a brick from the tip of his dick? :eek:

Yikes... I think I'll hold my tongue after all. Don't want to give my wife any ideas about changing MY body. :shocked: