Separation

[Montrealman]

So I was with a buddy driving along aboutone hour ago and guess who I see wlaking on the street? Yeah them two. Jus like last week. It would be easier if he didn't live so damn close. Kind of bummed me out for my day but that's my problem. I'm tired of it bothering me. I need to leave this place asap.

 

[Will E Worm]

So I was with a buddy driving along aboutone hour ago and guess who I see wlaking on the street? Yeah them two. Jus like last week. It would be easier if he didn't live so damn close. Kind of bummed me out for my day but that's my problem. I'm tired of it bothering me. I need to leave this place asap.

After he admitted he had no respect for the relationship, she is still with him!?

I thought she broke up with both of you?

Guess women do prefer the guys who don't care.

 

[Member2019]

So I was with a buddy driving along aboutone hour ago and guess who I see wlaking on the street? Yeah them two. Jus like last week. It would be easier if he didn't live so damn close. Kind of bummed me out for my day but that's my problem. I'm tired of it bothering me. I need to leave this place asap.

It probably wouldn't hurt to move a start fresh, especially putting distance between him and her.

But at this point, dude, let it go. He's a prick, but she made the stupid decisions. I'm sure she's already feeling stupid. Just let it go for now.

Don't give it another thought.

 

[LBP 76]

What about other topics? Not trying to tangent, but to provide an example, I just saw you giving out your opinions in a thread on "missile defense." So why is that topic applicable, but not this one?

Because most people that post on sites like this are either teenagers with little experience with women or sexist males who think of women as objects, not as equals.

 

[Montrealman]

Because most people that post on sites like this are either teenagers with little experience with women or sexist males who think of women as objects, not as equals.

I'm neither. I was drunk one night when it was boiling down and I drank and typed. Sue me. I was/am basically looking everywhere for answers. I needed opinions. It is shallow of me, I'll give you that, but my intentions were honest in asking people's advice.

Thanks.

 

[scubamike]

yeah be careful, bro. relationships could be relationshits at times, like Dane Cook sometimes says.

Be careful and don't let the mind-games take you over. Especially talk to friends and family face-to-face for their opinions on the matter.

stay strong!

 

[LBP 76]

I'm neither. I was drunk one night when it was boiling down and I drank and typed. Sue me. I was/am basically looking everywhere for answers. I needed opinions. It is shallow of me, I'll give you that, but my intentions were honest in asking people's advice.

Thanks.

No harm in asking for advice. Just be aware of where it's coming from.
If this woman causes you pain without just cause then I offer my condolences.

 

[bodie54]

After he admitted he had no respect for the relationship, she is still with him!?

What he said (which I think goes without saying based on his actions - but I digress) was that he had no respect for the relationship Montrealman had with her; not that he has no respect for the relationship he has with her.

she told me he did come clean to her and admitted he had no respect for the relationship I had with her

 

[Member2019]

Because most people that post on sites like this are either teenagers with little experience with women or sexist males who think of women as objects, not as equals.

So what you're saying is that you, by default and without exposure, have no respect for most people who post here? Yes, a good portion of the board is 20-something, and that does drive some attitudes. But it's hardly "teenagers."

Maybe, just maybe, if you change your default attitude, you might find that some of us do have experiences and advice. I really think the whole attitude "it's a porn board" is total non-sense. May of us are not outcasts merely because we appreciate erotica.

In fact, that's part of the problem.

 

[Montrealman]

I understand both Porf's and LBP 76's point of views, their both valid. I'm notgoing to start feeling bad for having posted on here. I've been a member here for more than 3 years and I've made some pretty good friends and like I wrote before I just threw my thoughts andemotions out there. Sometimes when you speak to family or friends about a situation like mine, everyone gives their opinion based on their own experiences and that can sometimes be a little bias. I wanted "strangers'" opinion on it. That was all.

 

[SBTNW]

1: Alcohol soothes the mind, eases the pain.. and erases the memory.

wrong. alcohol doesn't eases the pain... it increases it!!! and the wipe-memory it's only temporary. NOT A FRIEND IN THIS CASE.

my humble advice is: go out and help someone. really help. that helps a lot.

 

[georges]

Hi Montrealman

My approach would have been this one with this girl. I would have been much more ruthless than you are especially when a girl cheats on me. I would have asked her this: "What kind of crappy games are you playing? Do you think I am an idiot to who you can lie all the time? If you guessed so then you have knocked on the wrong door and know that I seriously dispise that kind of attitude. Does this random guy makes you happy? If no, why do you still see him? You said that the relationship with this dude was finished, so why continue to visit him? Give me a fucking reason why do you still visit him? You are not helping your case by lieing to me? Perhaps you want me to slap the greed out of him, so you will understand that I am not kidding? Now, you have to make a choice, it is either me or him. If it is him then go with him and never come back in my home. I trust this is clear."
Sometimes, you need to be authoritative in order to be respected and using force is a necessity sometimes especially with flirty and unloyal people who only understand strong discipline.
But this is just my opinion.

best of luck and best regards

georges

 

[Montrealman]

Thanks George.
Yeah I did use that approach when it all began back in Christmas time. She did choose, she chose him. It's just that I know that type of guy very well and I warned her about his methods and intentions. Now I'm being proven right about it but she still choses him over me. I kicked her out because she had lied to me, she was seeing him "as a friend" behind my back and I was foolish in trusting her because she is that last person I'd ever expect this from. After I kicked her out she moved in with him yet some of her things are still here. I have to move out by the end of this month beacuse I can't afford this on my own. I got laid off last week so it's time to look for a new job, new place, gotta get rid of this place and...well my plate is kind of full right now.

So he told her to delete all e-mail infos rom me, Facebook & all those things. He feels threathened I guess, I just really don't want to bump into him because I bark and bite too. Then, after a few weeks she comes to me to say sorry and asked to be friends. I am not a fucking yo-yo. I just wanted my girl back and to renew and move forward, all very simple and honest intentions but the entire thing fucked with my head. The fact that they live close by doesn't help me one bit.
The situation came from left field, I did not see it coming and it messed me up.
Thanks again Georges.

 

[georges]

Thanks George.
Yeah I did use that approach when it all began back in Christmas time. She did choose, she chose him. It's just that I know that type of guy very well and I warned her about his methods and intentions. Now I'm being proven right about it but she still choses him over me. I kicked her out because she had lied to me, she was seeing him "as a friend" behind my back and I was foolish in trusting her because she is that last person I'd ever expect this from. After I kicked her out she moved in with him yet some of her things are still here. I have to move out by the end of this month beacuse I can't afford this on my own. I got laid off last week so it's time to look for a new job, new place, gotta get rid of this place and...well my plate is kind of full right now.

So he told her to delete all e-mail infos rom me, Facebook & all those things. He feels threathened I guess, I just really don't want to bump into him because I bark and bite too. Then, after a few weeks she comes to me to say sorry and asked to be friends. I am not a fucking yo-yo. I just wanted my girl back and to renew and move forward, all very simple and honest intentions but the entire thing fucked with my head. The fact that they live close by doesn't help me one bit.
The situation came from left field, I did not see it coming and it messed me up.
Thanks again Georges.

Personally, I would have given this guy a very good and severe beating and I would have thrown all the things that belong to her in the streets. Because for me it is unthinkable to feel cheated, I would decide to give the girl the money of her acts back. The wild side of me would have honestly pushed me to hardcore sex, when I feel badly dirtied or cheated by an unloyal and untrustworthy girl, I always need to get my revenge. Some people will say that I am unreasonable but I honestly never let myself disrespected nor insulted and will act in a strong way if this was and is the case .

 

[bodie54]

The situation came from left field, I did not see it coming and it messed me up.

MM - Your mind can't help but struggle with the glaring contrast between who she seemed to be and who she is. But try to keep in mind that though you didn't see it coming this is who she is, and because of that you are infinitely better off without her.

Georges I wouldn't bother with the boyfriend beating (although I kind of like the idea of throwing her stuff out on the street lol). Yeah he's a piece of shit, but none of this would have happened if she hadn't allowed it.

 

[Montrealman]

MM - Your mind can't help but struggle with the glaring contrast between who she seemed to be and who she is. But try to keep in mind that though you didn't see it coming this is who she is,

Coping with that yet still kind of stunned in a way.

and because of that you are infinitely better off without her.

In the longrun, yes I can see that now.

Yeah he's a piece of shit

Yes!

but none of this would have happened if she hadn't allowed it.

Too true and she knows it too.

Thank bodies54 :hatsoff:

 

[Sherlock_Holmes]

So what you're saying is that you, by default and without exposure, have no respect for most people who post here? Yes, a good portion of the board is 20-something, and that does drive some attitudes. But it's hardly "teenagers."

Maybe, just maybe, if you change your default attitude, you might find that some of us do have experiences and advice. I really think the whole attitude "it's a porn board" is total non-sense. May of us are not outcasts merely because we appreciate erotica.

In fact, that's part of the problem.

I also thought his post was pretty narrow minded and judgmental. Porn may be a common interest for everyone here, but I'm sure it doesn't define us and many of us here have had plenty of life experiences to share when a question or need for advice arises. I'm guessing that a lot of the people he goes to for advice outside of the porn board (since no one here is worthy to give an opinion) are porn lovers themselves.

 

[bodie54]

Coping with that yet still kind of stunned in a way.

Understandably. Betrayal is a tough nut to crack. Feeling stunned is compeletey normal, and it may be quite some time before that feeling fades. It may never go away completely, but your perspective on it is bound to change. Hang in there and be patient with yourself. This has freed you up for someone far better and that woman, whoever she may be, will be along in time :thumbsup:

 

[wenewml]

take it from a man who has been on both sides of the coin....disregard anything that comes out of her mouth. you're too close to be objective anyway. Cue strickly off her actions! she is spending time with another man and not with you...she wants to be with him. she doesn't initiate calls to yoy and you always try to talk to her.....she doesn't want to talk to you. No woman wants a man acting like a whiney whipped boy. She wants a challenge a i'll call you when I fucking feel like it kind of guy, once a cheater in a relationship......she will always cheat on you. Become not available and get on with life, hang with your mates and get away. dont let her back in your life she will ruin and poison your heart

 

[spartan7]

Personally, I would have given this guy a very good and severe beating and I would have thrown all the things that belong to her in the streets. Because for me it is unthinkable to feel cheated, I would decide to give the girl the money of her acts back. The wild side of me would have honestly pushed me to hardcore sex, when I feel badly dirtied or cheated by an unloyal and untrustworthy girl, I always need to get my revenge. Some people will say that I am unreasonable but I honestly never let myself disrespected nor insulted and will act in a strong way if this was and is the case .

I'm with georges. Ah, heck, beat that bitch's ass too. While you're at it, run them over when you see them on the street.