Separation

[Montrealman]

Wow!
She really wants me to feel guilty because I "dictate" who can come here tomorrow (meaning no to new guy). I did my share of childish behavior towards her, take full responsability for my actions and reactions after she left and nowshe says I don't mean it. What the hell?
I swear if there is anymore arguing my head will explode.
I think this might be my last day here for a while as this crappy computer is hers. My laptop died a few months ago & I am super poor.
I will miss this place.

 

[Member2019]

Call her dad or someone you both trust.
That will solve the problem.
Someone needs to knock some sense into her.
Your request is non-negotiable.

 

[LBP 76]

Wow!
She really wants me to feel guilty because I "dictate" who can come here tomorrow (meaning no to new guy). I did my share of childish behavior towards her, take full responsability for my actions and reactions after she left and nowshe says I don't mean it. What the hell?
I swear if there is anymore arguing my head will explode.
I think this might be my last day here for a while as this crappy computer is hers. My laptop died a few months ago & I am super poor.
I will miss this place.

You are 'super poor' and you spent $500 on clothes? We each have our own priorities I guess.

 

[xxaru]

If it were me, I wouldn't even be there when she came over. I'd have a close friend of mine come by and handle things for me... and just let her bring whoever she wants to help her get her stuff out.

Throw everything important of yours in a room and lock the door. Tell your friend that NOBODY takes or touches anything in that room, and if there are any problems at all to call the police immediately (and then to phone you) and not to take any shit from anybody.

 

[pancha]

If it were me, I wouldn't even be there when she came over. I'd have a close friend of mine come by and handle things for me... and just let her bring whoever she wants to help her get her stuff out.

Throw everything important of yours in a room and lock the door. Tell your friend that NOBODY takes or touches anything in that room, and if there are any problems at all to call the police immediately (and then to phone you) and not to take any shit from anybody.

solid plan there! had to kick out a roommate who was stealing from us years back and took a similar approach because I had to be at work at the time.

 

[Montrealman]

You are 'super poor' and you spent $500 on clothes? We each have our own priorities I guess.

You're right LBP. I did splurge a bit on the clothes but it was needed.
Got myself two very nice jobs today. One I was hoping to get for the salary and benefits plus the 2nd one I can do in the evenings 3 or 4 times a week, no biggie. Oh and I found myself a laptop too.

Don't mean to sound like a snob or anything like that guys.

 

[Montrealman]

If it were me, I wouldn't even be there when she came over. I'd have a close friend of mine come by and handle things for me... and just let her bring whoever she wants to help her get her stuff out.

Throw everything important of yours in a room and lock the door. Tell your friend that NOBODY takes or touches anything in that room, and if there are any problems at all to call the police immediately (and then to phone you) and not to take any shit from anybody.

Yeah all my stuff has been packed for a while and all in one room.
I'm good. :thumbsup:

 

[LBP 76]

You're right LBP. I did splurge a bit on the clothes but it was needed.
Got myself two very nice jobs today. One I was hoping to get for the salary and benefits plus the 2nd one I can do in the evenings 3 or 4 times a week, no biggie. Oh and I found myself a laptop too.

Don't mean to sound like a snob or anything like that guys.

Congrats on the jobs and the laptop.

 

[Fresno]

You're right LBP. I did splurge a bit on the clothes but it was needed.
Got myself two very nice jobs today. One I was hoping to get for the salary and benefits plus the 2nd one I can do in the evenings 3 or 4 times a week, no biggie. Oh and I found myself a laptop too.

Don't mean to sound like a snob or anything like that guys.

Sounds great friend, glad to hear of your 2 jobs and the new laptop.

Hope we can chat soon.

 

[georges]

glad all is going better, great to her you have a better job and a new laptop.

 

[Montrealman]

Thank you all but it'll be real good when I get out of this area. Trust me.

 

[Montrealman]

I'd like to add that in the last few years since this happened, that ex called back numerous times to apologize and say she made a hug terrible mistake. That guy she left me for dumped her 10 months later for another chick, lol.

I've been in a very stable relationship for with the girl I me a couple of weeks after my last post here. Been going and strong and we're engaged.

The ex still calls though to be "friends" and I'm not rude to her. No need to show revenge all the time. I'm actually quite ok with her.

I don't belive in revenge anymore, I learned & gained so very much from that awful experience and I will trully remember how thins went down.

So I'd like to thank Prof V and so many others who chimed in because I asked them to.
Your advice helped so much in a time I could think straight at all and was simply a total mess. Thank you fellas!!

MM :hatsoff::hatsoff::hatsoff:

 

[Icewater Jones]

I'd like to add that in the last few years since this happened, that ex called back numerous times to apologize and say she made a hug terrible mistake. That guy she left me for dumped her 10 months later for another chick, lol.

I've been in a very stable relationship for with the girl I me a couple of weeks after my last post here. Been going and strong and we're engaged.

The ex still calls though to be "friends" and I'm not rude to her. No need to show revenge all the time. I'm actually quite ok with her.

I don't belive in revenge anymore, I learned & gained so very much from that awful experience and I will trully remember how thins went down.

So I'd like to thank Prof V and so many others who chimed in because I asked them to.
Your advice helped so much in a time I could think straight at all and was simply a total mess. Thank you fellas!!

MM :hatsoff::hatsoff::hatsoff:

Living well is revenge enough, my friend.

The funny thing about the grass being greener on the other side is... it is greener! However, it usually doesn't STAY green, and she had to learn this the same way people learn anything... THE HARD WAY. It's good that you've gone on to better things. Congrats for that!

 

[Deepcover]

You shouldn't say nice guys finish last. She's obviously confused so what? happens to everybody. You still have your whole life ahead of you before you meet someone who really cares for you. I wouldn't worry so much and after all we are only human.

Take Care.

 

[Supafly]

This is one thread from the past I do not get angry at

VERY happy to hear you made it through, and well, your ex seems to have gotten the lesson she did on herself by quitting a man that treated her rigth, not like the man who dropped her casually along the way when he was tired of her.

Live a happy life, and do not look back too long.

You made my day :clap: