would you cheat on your wife/girlfriend?

[gunslingingbird]

It's weird. I just realized this:
If I see a very attractive woman walking in my direction, I don't even look anymore, where I have in the past. I've been in relationships and I would look and think to myself ''Man, I would bang that chick so hard, she's drop-dead gorgeous''. Call it love, aging and being more respectful with my thoughts towards these hot chicks or pure total commitment to one person but I really don't even think about mentally wanting to bang another chick anymore as the only person I am truly fawning over and anticipate to be intimate with is my fiancée. Yeah I know what this site/board is all about, I've considered that. Anyways...

So would you say that true love makes you emotionally block out the other members of the opposite sex? I've definitely experienced something similar in the past.

 

[busenbust]

So would you say that true love makes you emotionally block out the other members of the opposite sex? I've definitely experienced something similar in the past.

Hmmm, interesting, never looked at it from that viewpoint :thumbsup:

 

[Wainkerr99]

No.

I do not know how anyone can sleep with another person when married, associated with or about to be/wanting to be associated with another. I would feel so soiled, so callous and like I am cheating on myself.

 

[lurkingdirk]

So would you say that true love makes you emotionally block out the other members of the opposite sex? I've definitely experienced something similar in the past.

Hmmm, interesting, never looked at it from that viewpoint :thumbsup:

it is an interesting thought - if you're committed enough in your relationship with your partner it will certainly have an impact in all your other relationships, including any encounter with a person of the opposite sex.

so, in theory, because i'm in a committed relationship, anyone i encounter - male or female, hot or no - is of no interest to me sexually.

i think it is a nice idea, but i'm not sure it is realistic. this isn't a criticism, just my own thoughts/reactions to this.

i'm going to see some nice titties on some stranger and i'm going to notice those titties. now, if i believed that i shouldn't even notice because i'm married, there is guilt associated with the act of noticing. i'd feel guilty all the time, and i'd hate myself.
on the other hand, if i acknowledge that there are plenty of people that i'm attracted to besides my wife, and i am open an honest about that with my wife, that seems better to me. I don't mean i'm going to be a dick and point out everything that walks by with boobies, but to expect yourself to be immune to visuals will lead to problems.

acknowledge there are many hotties, don't feel guilty about it, but control your reactions and be open about it with your partner. that's my motto.

having said all that (i'm wordy, don't you think?), i have also had moments where my wife has said to me, "wow, did you see the size of her boobs?" and i honestly had not noticed. maybe i've curbed my reactions for long enough that i've become (sometimes) immune.

in any case. cheers. i heart boobies. :glugglug:

 

[Galactic]

As one who has been cheated on, NO, I would never make someone feel the way I did. Never.

 

[JordanRules]

I'll take the same advice my parents gave me when I went shopping with them as a kid. "Look, but don't touch." Always works for me. :thumbsup: And to add another thing, I'm single at the moment, and when I meet someone randomly such as a sales girl in a department store, I find myself checking her finger for a ring. I've been doing it so much, I think it's just automatic now. I could never try to take another man's girlfriend/wife, because I would not want it done to me. Again. Not a good feeling.

 

[Sicario]

In all honesty yes if the woman I am going to cheat with is 10x better than my GF in every regard. Why trade down?

Now if you think your GF won't cheat on you for another man that might be better looking or financially secure than you then keep living with your head up your arse. I worked in an office and half of my co-workers were women and during the course of 5 years you get to understand a womans' psyche.

 

[busenbust]

"in any case. cheers. i heart boobies."

^^Amen to that

 

[Smallville417]

My girlfriend says she doesn't pay attention to other guys when she is in a relationship, and I KIND of believe her. But I really would not be bothered if she did. I don't think there is anything wrong with looking, even being attracted, as long as it does not go beyond that.

I know better than to think I am the only guy my girl would be attracted to, I just care that I am the only one she loves and wants to be with.

 

[Smallville417]

Double post, btw how come I don't see a delete option, other than when I run the pointer over the edit button?

 

[feller469]

did I cheat on my ex-wife? Nope, but had plenty of chances and few desires of my own held to the vows.

have I cheated on a girlfriend? yep. Ironically, with one girlfriend, when i told her about it, she confessed to cheating the same weekend. We would not have gotten married before and it changed the relationship after the confessions.

Can i understand SOME people cheating? Yes. I have had more than few jobs where I had to meet and deal with tons of people. Every once in a while you meet someone who seems like a perfect match. There is an instant chemistry that is obvious to everyone in the room.

 

[boobmanz]

Do it al, the time, there's so many beautiful women in this city.

 

[Smallville417]

did I cheat on my ex-wife? Nope, but had plenty of chances and few desires of my own held to the vows.

have I cheated on a girlfriend? yep. Ironically, with one girlfriend, when i told her about it, she confessed to cheating the same weekend. We would not have gotten married before and it changed the relationship after the confessions.

Can i understand SOME people cheating? Yes. I have had more than few jobs where I had to meet and deal with tons of people. Every once in a while you meet someone who seems like a perfect match. There is an instant chemistry that is obvious to everyone in the room.

In situations where the chemistry is too much to resist, I have immediately dumped previous girlfriends (pretty cold I guess), but have never cheated on them. If I have enough feelings/urges for someone else, it's a clear sign to me that I'm not in the relationship I want to be in.

At least you were honest in confessing. I could just never do something and hide it, the guilt and shame would be overwhelming. That is why I never put myself in the position to feel that way.

 

[Smallville417]

Do it al, the time, there's so many beautiful women in this city.

Nothing wrong with wanting to enjoy yourself with as many woman as possible, it seems though you might be better suited to stay single though. Why bother being in a relationship if you have a chronic history of cheating?

I've known guys in the past who are pretty upfront with the woman they see that they do not want a committed relationship, and they either accept it or they don't, but at least it's out in the open.

 

[busenbust]

Double post, btw how come I don't see a delete option, other than when I run the pointer over the edit button?

I believe you have 15 mins to edit your post. After that, I don't think you can 'delete' . HTH

 

[Smallville417]

I believe you have 15 mins to edit your post. After that, I don't think you can 'delete' . HTH

Thanks for the info.

 

[busenbust]

^^Not a prob

 

[sexdog121]

wow what a question you looking for a support so you can cheat on yours?

 

[mongo18]

I go to university, so I commit mental adultery at least a dozen times walking between classes, but no, I'd never actually do it. I have a very loving wife who would do anything for me and doesn't deserve that, not to mention a gorgeous 2 year old daughter who it'd just kill me to lose. Like Smallville said, if you're in a relationship and you want someone else, end the current one first.