If you are seeking a 'she-male' it would be wise to know that it is a sex industry term. Some transsexual women may feel disrespected if you use that turm, especially if your lady isn't for hire. Also, not every transgender is interested in being the fantasy of a girl with something extra! If you are looking for that, say so up front so that there is no misunderstanding. Once you have the ground rules down, be prepared for the best lovers in the world! Watch and learn, Welcome to the World of Transsexual Lovers.